All men have been guilty of this at some point, buying girls drinks as an icebreaker or conversation starter. Other wise know as the act of taking your hard earned money out of your wallet to purchase a drink for a girl that you barely know at a bar in an attempt to gain favor with her.
For some men it is part of their courtship process and some men are used by women for drinks becoming just another notch on her belt. However all men should know there are potential problems that you may run into by buying girls drinks.
Sends The Wrong Message
Buying the drink can come off as a attempt to pay for her attention or an attempt to get her drunk. Causing her to feel like a material item, or that you aren’t interested in her as a person. A feeling that no girl likes. This can potentially send the message that you will continue to pay for attention. If a man is already throwing money at her within the first few minutes, it is possible that he will continue throughout the relationship.
This can become devastating on your wallet and your psyche. The feeling that the reason she is with you because of your spending habits rather than you.
Could Be A Test
This is a common test that girls will use on men. It is a way to filter out men that she is not interested in. The act of being able to control a man so easily, and removes the challenge lumping him with most of the men at the bar that night. We all love challenges. Similar to economics in which the value of an items can be determined by the difficulty of achieving it. By refusing to buy girls drinks, this will add perceived value, intrigue and challenge her.
Girls test men because it is a quick way to filter out men that are not her type. Imagine if a girl were to take the time to sit down and interact with every man that showed an interest in her. She would get nothing done. So tests are used to reveal men that she may potentially be interested in.
Sense Of Entitlement
Men have been buying drinks for so long that now in some girls, a feeling of entitlement has been created. Carrying little to no money to bars and clubs because in their mind they will get drinks regardless. This is a pet peeve of mines in which a person feels that they deserve something simply for being who they are. An attitude that men shouldn’t keep feeding because as long as it continues to be done uncontested. She will continue to feel that nothing is wrong with such a mentality.
Is There Ever A Time To Buy Girls Drink?
Sometimes, no rule is absolute. If you and the girl are getting along great , there is a connection and you are ordering another drink. That is a perfectly fine time to buy a drink because the drink doesn’t have the subtext of attention or approval seeking. Just remember that the initial interactions with girls should be about simply getting to know one another rather than amount money. Never feel obligated to buy a drink.