Its been weeks, months or years of him being involved in a relationship with her. Instead of breaking up with her face to face, over the phone, or even Facebook he decides to disappear into a cloud of smoke like Houdini.
Leaving her wondering why men disappear instead of breaking up the traditional way.
I won’t sugar coat it and claim that perhaps his father was injured in the Brazilian rainforest and he had to fly out to help him thus why you can’t reach him.
If you can not reach a guy after a week or two he’s gone, and the core of the reason is simple, he’s not interested. His reasons for not being interested could be a fear of commitment, ex-girlfriend, feels overwhelmed and a long list of other possibilities that I will not focus on in this article.
If you want to learn some of those reasons check out, why do men pull away.
For the rest of you the focus of this article is about the reasons why a man would choose to disappear instead of manning up and telling a you face to face that he is no longer interested.
From a woman’s perspective this may not seem to be the case, she is angry, confused and saddened by what has happen, easy is not a term she would use to express what she is feeling.
However from the guy’s perspective, instead of a night filled with tears, anger, whys and deep expressions of feelings, he simply hits the power button on his phone and poof the relationship is done.
There is no need to go down that road because communication is gone, and over time she will eventually get the idea that the relationship is over.
This is because of ..
Fear of Conflict
This is a fear that most people have. Have you ever been in a situation where you disliked a person but didn’t want to express it because of worry about hurting their feelings or making a scene? So instead you hold your tongue? you are not alone.
This happens in school, work, friendships, relationships or in some marriages, that instead of confronting the problem, it is avoided.
For some this how they deal with problems throughout their lives, and the reason why some men will disappear instead of breaking up directly.
He wants to avoid possibility of tears, possibility of an argument, possibility of things being thrown, he wants to avoid it all.
Though It’s unfortunate that in this day and age the act of disappearing in a relationship still happens, there is a silver lining in the dark cloud.
Happiness, to no longer be involved with a guy that would do such a thing. A guy that would avoid dealing with a break up, will avoid dealing with other problems that will arise through life and the relationship the same way.
Be honest and ask yourself, is that truly the kind of person that you want to be with?