The importance of having dating standards can not be stated enough. Creating dating standards gives you a chance to really give thought to what you want in a partner and relationship. It provides you with a guide of the type of person you should be looking for. So when it comes to dating standards..did you know that women on average have higher dating expectations than men?
From a young age young girls are exposed to books and cartoons depicting prince charming. A man who is handsome, brave, charming, and rich. Though at such an age the young girl most likely does not know what she is seeing but it does on a subconscious level paint a picture of what to look. While young boys are more interested in comics, cartoons, action movies etc.
Even as a women gets older trend of Prince Charming continues, through romantic comedies, advertisements, books and more. Take the popularity of the 50 Shades of Grey for example.
“When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms.” – Amazon Book Description
This is a book that is sweeping the nation and seducing women of all backgrounds. Even being the fastest selling book in the U.K. to date. And you can bet your first-born that these books will be made a movie at some point. Yay?
So media is one reason for women having such high dating standards, another is she can afford to have really high standards. Women are always being hit on by men, even the ones that are considered not that attractive will have at least a few guys hitting on her in the bar. She can sit back and turn men down like a judge on American Idol until the one that she feels is right comes along.
This extends even to online dating. Did you know that the majority of initial messages are sent by men to women? If you were to compare the inbox of an average woman to an average man. The difference in messages is astounding.
On the other hand most men don’t have this option, they must put themselves on the line constantly to meet women. With the Fear of Rejection involved in every approach a man will sometimes lower their standards to increase their chances of getting the woman.
There is also the dangers of men. A woman who meets a guy in a bar or club must take extra precaution because since a man is usually physically stronger than a woman. In a way if she were to leave with you, she is putting her life on the line. Because of this she has to make sure that you are not the type of guy to harm her and are safe to be around AKA not a Serial Killer
If we were to look at it from a biological standpoint, women can only have children for a certain period of their lives. This period is much shorter than men. So a failed relationship is more difficult on a women that wants to have kids because of the time that is lost. This makes picking the right guy more important.
Though women on average have higher dating standards than men. We should all have standards that will make us happy. Never settle for less than what you deserve in this world, and what you deserve is the best.