You sit there playing with your hair wondering why he hasn’t called you in a few days. When you do see him he seems less interested and not quite there mentally as if he doesn’t care he is there. Obviously this worries you. In an attempt to get to the bottom of the problem you confront him. “What’s wrong babe?” you ask, “Nothing” he answers.
He starts to pull away further; making you feel like a gap of space has turned into an ocean. Frustrated you begin to think, “Why do men pull away”?
Fear of Commitment
At some point in the relationship a man begins to think of the future of that relationship. Is it getting serious? Will she be the one I marry, the one I spend the rest of my life with? Making him contemplating what that life would be like.
Some men have no problem with such thoughts, but some do. They fear that they will lose their freedom. Fear being with one woman the rest of their life. They aren’t sure you are the one so they begin to pull away.
Sometimes to take a step back to evaluate the relationship as a whole before making the commitment Other times to break up by pulling away until the relationship falls apart at the seams.
Not Enough Space
There are some women that are needy, if a woman is crowding a man too much and not giving him his space. In an attempt to keep the space he has, he will pull away. If she continues to take up his space he will continue to pull away.
We all have things going on in our life besides the relationship we are in. Sometimes those things distract us from other parts of our life. So a problem with his job can cause him to be distracted from a relationship because he is trying to figure out the problem with the job.
He may keep it to himself because he wants to figure it out on his own, so if you begin to push for answer this will cause him to pull away.
Just Not That into You
The most painful reason to hear, He may have simply lost feelings for you. The reasons can vary such as you may be needy, he met someone else, relationship is boring, lack of trust etc. To pinpoint the reason the relationship would need to be evaluated by you.
Whichever the reason when men pull away it is a devastating feeling. Though you are compelled to chase after him to find the reason, I recommend first giving him space and seeing if he comes back. Men in most cases come back.
If he doesn’t and continues to distance himself, then confront him about it but do it lightly. If you confront him too directly this will cause him to get defensive, sinking his feet in the ground and refusing to budge on what is going on.
In the worst case scenario, it may be the end of the relationship and you may just have to accept that reality, as painful as it can be.