It hasn’t even been a month since the break up but she has heard through the grapevine he is seeing someone else. She is doubtful and shocked. Curious to discover the truth shes give him a call to probe if its true. He confirms the rumor and tells her, that is true
Yes he has moved on and her heart sinks. How could he move on so fast? Didn’t he really like her?
Though it is possible that the girl that he is currently dating he may have cheated with or she was a girl that he already liked but men being complicated creatures, the reason for a guy dating right after a breakup may not be as simple as that.
Filling a Void
When a guy breaks up with a girl he really likes, one that was huge part of his life and cared about. A void in his life happens, It is similar to a hobby that you had that consumed a large amount of your time. Now that you can no longer do that hobby, there is this huge empty time slot in your life that you don’t know how to fill.
The same thing happens to a guy post breakup, he doesn’t know what to do but try to fill it. He runs to the next girl in an attempt to fill that void. And even if that girl can not fill the void in the same way, at the very least she provides a distraction from the heartache he may be feeling.
Lack of emotional support
One of the traits of women that I have always admired is their ability to build strong emotional bonds with their female friends and be able to express what they are truly feeling with those friends..
With men it is different, we are raised to be emotional rocks, we try not to cry or show vulnerability. When we are with our best guy friends we tease one another , talk about the game and the women in our lives.
But one thing we rarely if ever do is talk about our feelings. So when a guy breaks up with a girl, even though he is feeling pain from the break up he does not go to his male friends for support.
Instead he looks for comfort in another woman. Another woman that he can be emotional with and share his feelings.
So when you see a guy date right after a breakup, it doesn’t mean that he didn’t truly have feelings for her. If anything it shows that he is feeling vulnerable and is looking for a connection to replace the one he had before. It shows that he is in his own way, looking for another her.