Many women would dump their nice and gentlemanly boyfriends for a bad boy type. Some girls are even drawn only to this type of personality. The reasons behind this is pretty bewildering, as a woman is innately predisposed to choose a man who can provide her a sense of security and who she can spend the rest of her life with.
People want to be with someone who is different, someone who is the complete opposite of themselves. Nice girls are attracted to men who live with an intoxicating lifestyle because they also want to be a part of that edgier world. That is why a bookworm often gets attracted to a person who rides a Harley.
Nice guys also tend to fall for strong-willed women. Such a situation creates a sense of excitement that you cannot feel if you are going out with the same-personality type as yours.
Romance novels influence women like no other. After reading tons of Harlequin romance, there is a huge chance that you would want a man who has a signature swagger and stride with overflowing bravado. And why not? In most novels, these indifferent, powerful, bold, and mysterious men often become the dreamy, faithful, and loving partner that every woman dreams of.
Bad Guys are Risk Takers
Women love men who are risk-takers because, most often than not, risk-taking men are successful. They bring home the bacon and are therefore, good providers.
According to anthropologists who are studying the evolutionary traits of people, men who are successful and risk takers often get most of the mating opportunities. Women’s primal instincts prefer men who have the best fighting skills, adventurous, and passionate.
Dark Triad Personality and the Mother’s Instincts
Naturally occurring bad boys are considered to have a dark triad of personality traits, which include three dominant traits: narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavelli.
Based on these traits, bad boys exhibit common behavior like indifference, egotism, cynicism, manipulative and deceptive behavior, callousness, selfishness, thrill-seeking impulsiveness, lack of empathy, and superficial charms.
The James Bond character is one example of an alpha male with dark triad traits. These traits are also often the character traits of male protagonists in romance novels.
According to research, men with dark triad personality traits know how to manipulate women, making them dangerous and interestingly, appealing to most women.
Many psychologists believe that bad boys can activate the mother’s instincts, and as a result, women feel compassion and want to take care of these men with the hope changing their unappealing attitude for the better.
Bad boys are considered dangerous and forbidden, and these traits translate to thrills of excitement. It’s like Eve and her curiosity on the forbidden fruit all over again.
Most women cannot resist the temptation nor stop the attraction to outlawed men, because, just like when Eve bit that forbidden fruit, many women want to know more than what they already did. It is the increased in status, the excitement of dating a wild and roguish guy.
It may be a fault for some, but for women who love their bad boys, it is the dream of their lives.