For years the roads to happy relationships have been littered by the broken hearts of women that got involved with guys that are players. Men who love to date multiple women for sex and the thrill of the chase. These guys leave women wondering, why are guys players?
Men love sex. They love sex a lot. This isn’t breaking news. Along with being pleasurable the reason men love sex is because in primitive times men were focused on producing lots of offspring with multiple women so as to ensure his genes got passed onto the next generation.
These days the need to sleep with multiple women to ensure that a man’s genes are passed on isn’t as strong as it once was but it still exists. Some men can suppress that desire and are fine with dating one woman. While others have trouble suppressing that desire and feel that need to sleep with multiple women.
The initial stage of a relationship is exciting. The thrill of the chase, the feeling of a new experience. Some guys like the high that they receive from the initial stage of a relationship so once they have gotten with a woman and know they have her.
That feeling of thrill and excitement begins to subside. So they run off to the next women in an attempt to regain that feeling.
Most of us have suffered heartbreak at some point. If you are one of those rare people that haven’t, teach us your secret. For the rest of us heartbreak is never easy, some people get over it more quickly than others and some never really get over a heart break.
They hold onto the scar that the break up left and never truly move on. A guy could have become a player because of this. He no longer trusts women like he once did and is afraid to put is heart on the line again.
Fear of commitment
Similar to how a guy that got his heart break refuses to put his heart on the line again. Some guys don’t even need the feeling of heartbreak to fear the idea of commitment. Some guys simply fear the idea of being with one woman for the rest of their life.
So instead of dealing with that fear, figuring out where it stems from, they avoid commitment. Sleeping with multiple women and never putting their heart on the line becoming players in the process.
Can you change a player?
I am one of those crazy optimists that believe that anything is possible but changing a player is unlikely. A person that wants to change is a decision that must be made by them and not a decision that can be made by the women. Even if she were capable of forcing him to change he will resent her eventually for forcing that change.
The best way to change a player is to become challenge again, men love women that play hard to get. She should distance herself by being less available when he calls, stay busy, and meet other people if she can.
This can rekindle the thrill he seeks and also for the woman give her space to think and evaluate if this is what she really wants. Most importantly never chase a guy that is a player, as long as he knows he can have you he won’t want you.