Going through a break up is a difficult for all parties involved. Saying goodbye to a person that was such a large portion of your life is never easy. Sometimes time their is yelling, other times silence, but who are break ups typically more difficult for ? Surprisingly despite the hard emotional exterior the answer is men.
Why are break ups hard on men?
Men tend to be taught from their upbringing and society that expressing feelings is a no no. While women are more open with expressing their emotions. This leads to women letting out the hurt of a relationship as soon as the relationship ends. A man on the other hand will bottle up inside, tell himself that he is just fine and let those feelings fester until a few months or years down the road he can no longer hold it and is force to face is feelings.
At the end of a relationship, a woman will tell her friends what happened. How much it hurt, and in turn her friends will support her. Tell her it will be ok and to the best of their ability help her through the emotional roller coaster she is feeling. On the other hand men usually don’t express such deep emotion with other men and in most cases the man’s emotional outlet was his girlfriend. With her no longer there he is forced to deal with it on his own.
Being forced to deal with it himself can lead to anger, and depression building. Potentially leading to lashing out and those not responsible or even going down the road of substance abuse to cope with the feelings.
Did you know that research has shown that divorced/separated men are more likely to commit suicide than their single counterparts and divorced/separated women.
Another important reason break ups are harder on men is that a woman in most cases will see the break up coming. A woman is more intune with the emotional stability of a relationship and if thing are rocky with hey spouse she will feel it. If it continues she will feel that spiral and subconsciously prepare for the end of the relationship. Men who are not as in touch with their feelings will not notice that spiral until too late and be caught much more caught off guard. Adding shock to the other feelings he will be feeling during the break up.
So if you are going through a break up and it seems that your guy isn’t feeling as broken up about it as you do because of his “man of steel” exterior. Don’t buy it, It’s just a mask that he feels he needs to wear.