It is definitely not a secret that some people lie on first dates. There are reasons that people tell small lies when they are on a date. This can be something as simple as trying to make a long story short or as practical as the date is just not ready to talk about a certain topic with somebody they just met. Daters can agree that a small white lie is not the end of the world, but sometimes lying gets out of hand. There are verbal and body language clues that can help you weed out the truth from the occasional lie on your date. In this case it is always beneficial to take note from FBI experts who specialize in interrogation and body language. After all, they do this for a living.
The biggest telltale sign of a lie is an individual’s eye shifts. If a person is lying he or she will make “down-and-out” movements with their eyes. This means that the liar in question shifts their eyes down and to the left, before finally raising their eye shift back up to meet the eyes of the individual that they are talking to. Right-handed individuals will tend to shift their focus to the left side, while left-handed individuals will shift their eyes to the right before bringing their eye focus back up to meet the eyes of their person that they are lying to. On average, it is rare that they eyes shift all the way up and meet the other person’s eyes at all if the person truly is lying.
Liars often change their behavior suddenly when they are lying. It is important to pay attention to your date’s body posture, facial expressions, and movements. Usually an individual who is lying is having trouble being clam or sitting still, and they often continue to fidget until they finish speaking. It is important to look for a change in behavior. For example, an individual who was sitting still and comfortable has all of a sudden become uncomfortable and continues to fidget in their seat. This change can signify the turning point from where the conversation started out to truthful and became a lie.
Most people engage in the look of shame when they are not telling the truth. This means that they avoid contact at all and may have a look of shame or guilt because of the lies that they just told. It is important to be able to identify these looks and to notice this change if it does occur. In addition, individuals that lie often use a pitchy tone of voice when they are telling a lie. Their voices may be uneven and irregular in comparison to their voices when they are not lying or in normal conversation.
In addition, individuals who may be lying often experience an increase in their body heat. This comes from the emotional stress that may be unconscious to the liar, and it takes a physiological toll on their body almost immediately. In some individuals their side effect can be as severe as visibly sweating. Some signs to look for are sweaty palms, forehead, or even stains in the upper extremities. Any shift in an individual’s body temperature can signify the side effect of a lie being told because it can be seen as a change in the norm.
If you suspect that a date is lying to you it is always to best to simply confront the individual. By calling them out on it quickly and directly you can better evaluate whether or not the individual truly is lying to you. This idea comes from the fact that good liars will usually have a fast and convincing response in an effort to redirect your attention to another subject in order to forget about their lie in question. They can often use tactics that will initiate an emotional response from you so that they avoid further confrontation to their lie. Most individuals will show signs of embarrassment or fumble with their words and body language. Usually, in these cases the individual should not be categorized as a professional liar, but they may just have made an incorrect decision.