Normally if a person asked me how to fall out of love, my first instinct would be to tell the person that all they need to do is give themselves space from that person, and time. Then eventually the feelings will pass.
However when it comes to falling out of love with some you see every day, it’s an entirely different ball game. You may be forced to see them every day because of work, class, or living situation but one thing’s for sure is that it is difficult goal to achieve.
Back when I had a job at a retail store and had recently broken up with a girl I had loved. For the next 6 months I had to see her every day, it was an awkward and at times a rage inducing experience.
Eventually I got over it and ill share with you how.
I think back to my time at the retail store and hind sight being 20/20 now, I should have just left. There was no reason that I couldn’t simply just get up and walk out into the sunset, never to return but for some reason the thought never occurred to me.
I am here to tell you that most of you can simply walk away. I understand that there are some of you out there that have a job that you worked for your whole life and simply just can’t leave, or a class that you absolutely need the credit for, etc..
For those people I get it. However for the rest of you, if you don’t absolutely have to be around the person you want to fall out of love with then don’t. Your happiness and well-being comes first so don’t ever feel trapped.
My #1 suggestion for this issue is always to distance yourself if you can to give yourself space to work through the feelings.
A side effect of often seeing someone you love is that your mind will also frequently think about them. So the first thing is to get that in order, otherwise it is easy for thoughts to keep you attached and in love.
Accept that you love them but you no longer want to be with them. When the feeling of doubt starts to creep in recite to yourself, “I love them but I no longer want to be with them”.
This serves as a way to keep your mind from wandering down memory lane and begins to help you accept the thought that though you love them you no longer want to be with them. Eventually getting you comfortable with that idea.
If you absolutely have to see the person every day, reduce the amount you communicate. Constant communication can keep you thinking about them and doesn’t give your mind the necessary space to get over your emotions.
Seeing doesn’t mean talking. If it’s a case in which that you have to communicate, keep it away from personal discussions and on general topics. This is a good time to talk about the weather, or that local sports team.
Keep your mind off them by focusing on other tasks. Don’t give yourself time to think about them.
If you are at work, focus on the job. If you are at class focus on what the professors is saying and if you live together go out and spend more time with your friends.
Do whatever is necessary that even though you are around them, you can focus on something else.
I’ll be honest, even with these tips falling out of love is a difficult road. It is important that you believe in yourself and remember that you can do anything that you set your mind to. If you can’t remove yourself from situations involving your ex altogether, be proactive in other ways.
Try your best to keep your thoughts, words, and actions as far away from them as possible. If you’re able to do this successfully, you can build yourself a new life that fills all the spaces that your previous love left empty.
That may seem impossible now, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Take a few steps in the right direction and you’ll see for yourself!